No Model Behavior

I don't plan on dwelling on the fact that model Isabeli Fontana clearly stated on national TV on Monday night that she would not like to have a gay son, but since many of you asked me to post the video of the interview, here it is.

Isabeli: I wouldn't want one of my sons to be gay. It just a minimum amount of prejudice. I have many friends who are gay, and I love them to death, but I wouldn't want to have a son turn out to be gay.
Guest: But if you did you would have to accept it.
Isabeli: Accept it and try to understand it. I would have to learn to deal with the situation, which is a difficult thing.

As I said yesterday, I am sure she did not think this was going to be a big deal at the time, but it is sort of sad that someone who works on a daily basis with homosexual editors, photographers, designers, and stylists, would say such a thing on primetime TV. I expected more from her to be honest.

Comments

well, everyone is entitled to his own opinion, isn't he? surely she has a reason for saying that and I belive we have to respect that...

Wasn't one of her former husbands rumored to be gay? If that was true, and he screwed her over, it might explain her attitude. (Of course, basing your opinion on a whole group of people based on the actions of one person who screwed you over sucks.)

normal to a brasilian head !
all girls here think the same !
it will be change soon ....
i hope

Meu inglês nao é dos melhores e se alguém puder traduzir para mim, agradeço. Acho a Isabeli uma modelo deslumbrante, versatil; realmente incrivel. Mas é fato que ela é, simplesmente,burra. Quem se lembra do VMAS no qual ela disse duas vezes: "Estamos aqui muito feliz". Ela nao foi pra escola e é do tipo de modelo que nao sabe dar opiniao simplesmente porque nao as tem. Nao é uma Iman, uma Kate Moss...ta longe. Esse deslize dela foi feio. Pelo jeito, pra ela amigo gay deve ser tipo um poodle.

Isn't it only natural to want to protect your children? Yes, there is no longer a stigma to being gay in most of the Western World but there is still a lot of Homophobia around - I think people should lay off her, she's a great Mother & a great person.

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well, honey, most models aren't that bright
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I agree that everybody is entitled to have a opnion, for sure.

And as a matter of fact, being a gay guy and all, I agree with her, and everything she said.

Most mothers (if not all) would not like to have a gay son. Think about your mothers for a second. As she said, they try to understand and acept, but it is not something they would expect and cheer at first place.

It is not about love or understanding, it is about expectations.

It IS as simple as that.

hey, i disagree that brazilian girls think like that. completely the opposite, tolerance is growing in a way it never did it before in Brazil! We still have a lot of things to improve with tolerance, but comparing to the rest of the world we are an incredibly tolerant people. And this declaration was very unfortunate, to be honest I was very disappointed with Isabeli!! I am sure she's the exception and not the rule.

I want to see if this statment affects her carrer.

kind of reminds me the Cher E! true hollywood story, when Cher tolds the camere how she felt like a terrible mother when she knew that her daugther is a lesbian...and Cher is a gay icon.
Any mother expect to have straight kids who will grown up marry some nice girl have kids...it's normal that a mother feel that way,but she's not even a mother of a gay son yet...so she should be more political about it,it was a t.v interview!

if her point was that there is greater concern for the safety and welfare of a gay child and in the interest of protecting children from harm, i'd understand the remarks. however, it doesn't quite come across that way.

That's funny, the girl can't even give a good reason for her statement.

Let's wait and see her future statements on "I didn't mean that" when people start boycotting her, which I REALLY hope that happens.

She's a model. And we all know that the industry is mainly made by GAY men, sponsored and kept by gay artists, focusing on both gay and straight market. And we also know that selling the bad fish is not good for the business.

There are so many other gay-friendly female top models. We do not need her.

I wonder if people (especially gay people) will keep wanting to see her on magazines, or even gay artists will keep on hiiring her. Because, at the end of the day, it will be the gay industry that will allow her to raise her child, who is likely to be a homophobe.

What a good example you are, Isabeli.

To respond to those that think her career might be in danger of being over. If Not all but the most important fashion magazines editors are WOMEN, and look at the crowd at Chanel today. only 25 percent of the attendee's were men. I dont think gay men rule fashion, maybe they rule "men's" fashion but not women. Her comments were blown out of proportion. Everyone gay male has to remember the moment they came out to there mother. I'm sure it was difficult, but with time and understand, it doesnt matter.

I suspect that it is precisely because Isabeli knows so many gay men that she made her statement. Many of these men have probably confided in her about the suffering they experienced because of their sexual preferences and because so many gay men grow up feeling different from the boys who end up heterosexual. By working in the fashion industry she may be in a position to know what she is talking about. Despite the presence of so many gay men behind the camera in the fashion industry, many of these gay men are often in the closet or feel that they should play down their sexuality? Why? Because they are well-aware that the general public is still not as cool with homosexuality as they like to pretend to be, political corrictness, and gay pride marches nothwithstanding. At schools in big urban cities across the western world, gay boys are still teased and get beaten up. Parents, especially fathers, are still upset when a son does not follow the normal code of behaviour for a boy,especially if that boy is effeminate. In the regular world many gay men complain of being isolated at their jobs because they are gay. As for male models, ever since the early to mid eighties the fashion industry has loudly insisted that most male models are straight but that has always been questionable to me. Why do people insist on this? Because they are aware that homophobia is very much alive, and they know that openly and obviously gay male models will discourage straight men from taking an interest in fashion and male models, and even so it is still difficult to get this group to take an open interest in fashion and male models.
Frankly I often think that gay men are superior to straight men, at least in terms of overall personality, charm, intelligence, talents, intersts, and yes looks, but the general public still feels that gay men are inferior by virtue of their sexual preference.
As for the idea that one of her husbands was gay(Alvaro Jacomossi, Henri Castelli?)and that messed her up and made her say what she said, I don't believe that.
I think she is great and may admiration for her hasn't changed. I'm only worried about how some people will react. I would never be narrow-minded enough, ironically, given that Isabeli is being accused of being narrow-minded, to imply that she and other models are stupid, or wish that she were boycotted from the industry, her vast accomplishment belittled, as a result of not liking her opinion. Some people need to grow up.

agree with u, Mr. Made In Brazil...

somebody should had told her that gay guys are the one who hire her for the fashion shows...


Boycott this shit-head!

well Leigh she's not even mother of a gay child,she's not KATE MOSS,she's just stupid to say it in t.v...i don't think that nobody boycott her career..well yes...she's boyctoting her own career .if u think that gay guys spend our life in sufering cause we r not straight u r as stupid as her...only that your comment is actually more homophobic! cause those r the reasons that keep homophobia alive...actually what Leigh is saying in her comment is almost the same things that homophobic people use as facts against same sex couples adopting childrens!!!!!

She says "I love gays" but she does not want one in her family..if this isn't prejudice, what is it? Isabeli is a great model and a beauty but her comment (not only the words, but as well the tone she uses) shows really how she feels about it - a typical small town girl full of prejudice thinking that is really surprising in a model that has traveled around the world and worked with a lot of gay people. Shame on her!

I will take her side on this(just because I love her:p), and defend her comment about gay facing prejudice. I'm sure she meant that she didn't want her son(s) to go through that. Man is there ever a stigma on being gay. It's almost taboo. There are a lot of gays out there who are afraid to come out because of what awaits on the other side, but it's unfair to live your life that way. I'd rather be hated for who I am than loved for what I'm not, and I'm not naive enough to believe that a personality is going to magically ease everyone's views. I think Isabeli is just trying to be cautious in the sense that she wants the society's view of a 'normal' life for her sons. If I recalll from a video, she said she wanted her son to be actor or singer. Their popularity will wane in the public eye if they are gay, which is unfortunate.

It's most definitely ashame that we live in a world that doesn't love all it's people, or refuses to understand what's going on, but if we want to survive we need to jump those hurdles as much as we can.

A comment like this one is as bad as the model line. Did you ever interview all Brazilian girls to write down this strong opinion? Or are just you saying based on your girlfriends and people that you know?
To be respected, we must respect!

Quoting:
Posted by: S | 07/02/2008 at 08:23 AM
normal to a brasilian head !
all girls here think the same !
it will be change soon ....
i hope

Regardless of whether she's homophobic or not, it's understandable that a mother would not want their son to be part of a group that is especially discriminated against, if only so her son would not have to suffer.

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